Stress Non-Eater

June 23, 2009 at 8:54 pm 14 comments

<rant>I know there are people out there who eat when they are stressed.  I am the exact opposite.  When something is really bothering me I let it manifest itself in ways that prevent me from wanting to eat.  It’s probably just as unhealthy as someone who binges on a stressful occasion.  I will admit that sometimes when I’m just a little bit stressed and eat I make poor choices, I don’t overeat though.  I might just say screw it I’m eating that cookie(s).  But when I let myself get so worked up eating is the last thing I want to do.  Today was one of those days.  For the past year Andrew’s twin brother’s girlfriend and I haven’t gotten along.  Today I finally let everything build up and when I got angry with something she did today,  I let it eat me from the inside out.  We sent some not-so-nice emails back and forth, and finally spoke on the phone a little while ago.  I’m a people pleaser, I get upset when people don’t like me, it bothers me so much, that this really stung.  I should have just went about my day but unfortunately I wound up leaving work early, and stewing in my anger.  Nothing has been completely resolved she apologized for somethings and I accepted her apology and for Andrew and his brother’s sake we have decided to start over.  Is it the best option?  Probably not.  Will it make Andrew happy?  Absolutely.  Besides that his brother is now going to be my brother-in-law in a couple years, and who knows one day she might be my sister-in-law so I have to bite the bullet and work on this relationship no matter how badly I just want to hide my head in the sand.  I’m more of an “ignore it and it will go away” type of person, not a strong characteristic.  Maybe it’s time I grew up and just worked on things. </rant>

Wow okay sorry for all that, it feels good to vent though.  And I’m sure at least one of you will have a similar story, or be able to share advice.

Enough about that, this is a food blog after all.  For breakfast I once again had a sandwich thin with pb.  I actually have pictures though!  And Homegirl, the key to the perfect pb spreading is to spread it on thick in the middle and then work it towards the outside.  No I’m kidding, there is no secret,.  I do admit I have a little more then a serving perhaps 2.5-3 tablespoons I’m willing to get the extra calories though.  I’m still losing weight so perhaps I’m doing something right. 

Picture 115

Then the trouble began.  Andrew came to take me out to lunch since I was so upset.  We wound up going to my favorite salad bar.

Picture 116

I ate some but not all of this salad.  If i had to guess I would say between 1/3 and a 1/2. It was:

  • mixed greens
  • carrots
  • onions
  • chicken
  • cucumbers
  • and light balsamic vinaigrette.

And this is where my pictures from the day end.  I came home early and began screaming about the whole thing to poor Andrew.  I was so worked up!  I give myself this nauseous feeling when I get upset, and eating seems impossible.  I feel better now but not well enough to eat something, I did stop by my mom’s house though and picked up her left over chicken parm, so get ready to see it for lunch tomorrow!

I’m off to watch the New Jersey Housewives reunion, and then get some much needed rest. 


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  • 1. Stress Non-Eater « A Year of Healthy Eating  |  June 23, 2009 at 10:37 pm

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  • 2. broccolihut  |  June 23, 2009 at 10:49 pm

    No need to apologize–we all need to vent sometimes!

  • 3. insideiamdancing  |  June 23, 2009 at 11:44 pm

    sounds like a difficult situation Danielle… I think most people can probably relate to having someone in their life they don’t get on with but feel obligated to in order to keep people happy :/

    Hope your Wednesday is better x

  • 4. Kailey  |  June 24, 2009 at 6:40 am

    im sorry to hear about the situation with your Andrew’s twin bothers girlfriend :\
    i hope you have a better day today!!!

  • 5. Madison  |  June 24, 2009 at 6:55 am

    We all need to vent–and I usually feel so much better after I tell someone what is on my heart.

    On a positive note–another drama filled session of the Housewives reunion, right? haha. How can Danielle and Teresa even sit next to each other???? After all that happened and tables that were thrown. 🙂

  • 6. Gina  |  June 24, 2009 at 7:17 am

    Oh ugh, I hate confrontations, especially with people who are family (or almost family?). I’m glad to hear you settled things, or at least things are better..for now. Just keep smiling and stay strong!

  • 7. applec  |  June 24, 2009 at 8:07 am

    We just can’t be expected to get along with everyone in life.

    I have the same problem with someone in my husbands family. It drives me up the wall that I really can’t stand anything about this person. But, unlike you, I don’t hold my breath. I feel we all have a right to tell someone if we believe they are being rude, inconsiderate, or just plain stupid. Since there is no resolve for this problem, I will never like the person, and nothing I say will change her/him (I certainly won’t change at this point), I simply avoid contact. Try to see as little of her/him as possible.
    Doesn’t it drive you crazy to dislike someone so much! Oh well -we’re only human.

    Be happy you have Andrew and a loving family and so many good friends.

  • 8. brandi  |  June 24, 2009 at 8:48 am

    i hope today is better! i know being in stressful situations with people is always hard, so I hope you guys get things worked out the best for everyone involved.

  • 9. ksgoodeats  |  June 24, 2009 at 10:01 am

    Wow – you and I are a lot alike. When I’m upset I can’t eat either. The thought of food makes me ill so I tend to avoid it at all costs. Also, I’m a people pleaser and for years I would get upset when people didn’t like me. Unlike you, however, I’m not in that situation with a potential SIL so I can only wish you the best. I hope that things turn around in your relationship with her!!

  • 10. glidingcalm  |  June 24, 2009 at 10:34 am

    hope your stress lessens!! I’ve been a bit overwhelmed too and I have to remind myself a) life is short! (and beautiful!!), and b) it’s summa summa time!!! Easier said than done, but I don’t want to be a moody slump!
    Love your PB spreadin tutorial!

    Hurray for salad bars!!! the bombbbbbbbbbb!

  • 11. Hallie  |  June 24, 2009 at 12:23 pm

    I am a total stress eater…the opposite of you…everyone deals with things differently. And I know what you mean about hating it when people don’t like you, especially when you are a nice person! Good for you for taking the high road and trying to work it out…I’m not sure if I’d do the same thing in your situation! Good luck.

  • 12. healthy ashley  |  June 24, 2009 at 1:14 pm

    Ahh! Sorry about the issues with her! I’m impressed that you were able to turn the page so well. Good luck!!

  • 13. Lynn (The Actors Diet)  |  June 24, 2009 at 1:53 pm

    Grrrr! Of course you need to vent – let it all out!!!

  • 14. katecooks  |  June 26, 2009 at 12:56 am

    sorry to hear about all the drama. it’s hard when you have people in your life who you dont get along with or would not be friends with if circumstances were different and you have to make it work anyway. i always try the indifference/kill them with kindness route myself, simply so i dont drive myself mad over everything. but you can vent to us whenever of course!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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